Utah HB302 is like a bad penny — it’s the same transphobic bigotry that keeps turning up. So far, 20 states have brought the copy/paste bill to session this year, legislation written by the hate group Alliance Defending Freedom and pushed by conservative politicians who use fear about trans people…

“Deep breath in.” I knew what was coming. I inhaled before a long, slow exhale, my focus on blowing air out, even as that breath became a bit of a yelp as the piercer’s needle slid through my left nipple. But my time the acute pain sizzled through my neurons…

What is it about trans bodies that makes people feel like we deserve their unsolicited evaluations? I hadn’t even started hormone replacement therapy when I started getting them. “Are you doing this to get your ex back?” was one of the earliest, followed shortly thereafter by “You’re going to be…

I hadn’t thought about the letter in years, but I knew what it was as soon as I saw it — a note from someone I don’t know anymore to a person who doesn’t exist. Maybe someone else could have left it alone. I couldn’t. I pulled at the edge…

Being half-undressed, half-entangled with a friend isn’t the most convenient time to realize you’re demisexual — Being half-undressed, half-entangled with a friend isn’t the most convenient time to realize you’re demisexual. The moment was an appropriate time, to be sure. …

Being cisgender isn’t normal. It’s simply not. No matter how you turn it, feeling hunky dory with the gender you were given at birth and grew up with isn’t the way things necessarily ought to be. Of course I’m playing with language here. (Got your attention, though, didn’t I?) “Normal”…

“Do you want to get pregnant?” For a split second, I thought about responding “Buy a girl a drink first!” I almost wish I had. Instead, assuming that the nurse meant “Do you want to preserve your gametes so that someone can have your biological child at some point?”, I…

Fifty seven streaming services and nothing on. I know, that’s not quite fair. One way or another almost every film ever spliced together is available somewhere, and there’s more every day. …

Change has guided the last two years of my life, but when will I feel ok with how I am today? — I wasn’t expecting to see her this morning. Most of the time I’m just stumbling through my daily routine. Shower. Dry. Shave (laser hair removal doesn’t get rid of those pesky white hairs). Deodorant. Eyeliner. …