Be as Vanilla as You Want

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“I don’t know if I’m vanilla. Maybe more like… vanilla with sprinkles?”

I wasn’t sure how else to describe what I liked from the sexual menu. Most of the time I was just happy to have any kind of loll in the sheets, with lingerie and toys and a little dirty talk saved for special occasions. I didn’t know anything about topping, rope, impact play, or much of anything beyond stereotypes of what kinky people did in the…